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How to Build Lasting Wellness Habits for Consistent Self-Care – Part II

by Guest Blogger Julia Merrill

This is part two of a two part series. The first post can be read here.

Small Self-Care Habits You Can Repeat Easily

Try these repeatable practices to keep your rhythm going.

When your habits are simple, specific, and forgiving, they become easier to repeat even when life gets busy. Use this menu to build lasting wellness habits for consistent self-care, then keep the ones that fit your energy, schedule, and needs.

Daily 12-Minute Meditation

What it is: Do 12 minutes of average daily quiet breathing or a guided meditation.
How often: Daily
Why it helps: A short, steady dose supports focus and emotional regulation.

Yoga Mobility Flow

What it is: Do 10 to 20 minutes of gentle yoga, emphasizing hips, spine, and shoulders.
How often: 3 times weekly
Why it helps: Regular movement reduces stiffness and keeps stress from settling in.

Balanced Plate Check

What it is: Add protein, fiber, and color to one meal before eating.
How often: Daily
Why it helps: Stable meals help with energy, mood, and reduce cravings.

Consistent Sleep Window

What it is: Keep a consistent sleep schedule within a one-hour range.
How often: Nightly
Why it helps: Predictable timing can improve sleep quality and morning clarity.

Two-Minute Downshift

What it is: Set a timer for 2 minutes of slow exhales and relaxed shoulders.
How often: Daily, after stressful moments
Why it helps: Fast resets reduce reactivity and help you return to your day.

Pick one habit to start and reshape it to fit your family this week.

Common Questions About Staying on Track

When stress spikes, a few clarifications can keep you consistent.

Q: How can I choose wellness and self-care goals that are realistic and fit into my busy life?
A: Pick one “minimum viable” habit you can do on your worst day, then scale up only when it feels easy. Anchor it to something you already do, like after brushing your teeth or before lunch. Aim for consistency over intensity, and permit yourself to adjust weekly.

Q: What are effective strategies to stay motivated when I struggle to keep up with my wellness routines?
A: Make the routine smaller, not stricter, and focus on showing up for two minutes to rebuild momentum. Use simple feedback, like noting energy or mood after, since motivational and behavioral outcomes often need repeated reinforcement. If you miss a day, restart at the easiest version.

Q: How do I create a self-care plan that helps reduce stress and promotes better mental health?
A: Build a short “stress menu” with one calming breath practice, one body-based reset, and one recovery boundary like a set bedtime. Schedule them like appointments in small blocks, especially on high-demand workdays. Keep it flexible so it supports you instead of becoming another pressure.

Q: What are the best ways to track my progress and hold myself accountable to my wellness goals?
A: Track behavior, not perfection: checkmarks on a calendar, a weekly streak count, or a one-line journal. Add one accountability touchpoint, like texting a friend your plan on Monday and your recap on Friday. Review trends monthly and update goals based on what your life can truly hold.

Q: What resources or learning opportunities are available if I want to develop new skills for managing stress and improving my well-being?
A: Look for time-flexible options like self-paced courses, short workshops, or skills groups focused on breathing, mindfulness, or stress regulation. Those interested in computer science education can also look for time-flexible options that fit around existing commitments. Choose programs that offer structure without rigid attendance, then book two small study blocks a week so learning supports, not disrupts, your routine. Remember that setbacks are a natural part of any journey, so plan for busy weeks with a lighter baseline.

Keep it gentle, keep it repeatable, and let small wins build emotional resilience.

Sustaining Self-Care Habits With Patience, Compassion, and Consistency

It’s easy for wellness intentions to get crowded out by busy weeks, stress, and the pressure to “do it right.” A long-term wellness commitment grows from the approach outlined here: simple structure, honest reflection, and self-compassion practices that make room for setbacks while supporting positive mindset cultivation. With that foundation, patient progress recognition becomes natural, and sustainable self-care starts to feel steady instead of fragile. Consistency comes from kindness, not criticism. Choose one small habit to repeat for the next seven days and track it with a single, clear check-in. That steadiness matters because resilient health is built through repeatable care that supports work, relationships, and recovery over time. Start small, repeat often, and let the rhythm do the heavy lifting.

Julia Merrill is a retired board certified nurse practitioner. In her many years in the medical field, she experienced challenges that a lot of her patients came across when dealing with their medical care. She made it her goal to bridge the gap between those who receive care and those who provide it. One of the biggest things she learned was that doctors are human. They may not always know the answers to what is ailing their patients. She believes this is why it is so important for patients to be concise, honest, and organized when seeking treatment.

Ms. Merrill shares tips she has developed to help patients be their own advocate in seeking medical care, dealing with insurance companies, and how to contribute to their own health and well-being. Her advice? Befriend your doc! Visit her on the web at https://befriendyourdoc.org.

No A.I. was used in crafting this article.

How to Build Lasting Wellness Habits for Consistent Self-Care – Part I

by Guest Blogger Julia Merrill

This is part one of a two part series. The second post can be read here.

For wellness seekers balancing work, family, and health appointments, self-care consistency often breaks down even when motivation is real. Stress management challenges flare up, schedules shift, and beginner wellness routines can feel either too vague to stick with or too strict to maintain. That start-stop pattern can leave holistic health goals feeling like another source of pressure instead of support. With a steadier approach, self-care can become reliable enough to reduce friction and build trust in the process.

Understanding Personalized Wellness Goals

Start with goals that fit your life.

Personalized wellness goals are the self-care choices that match your needs right now, not someone else’s highlight reel. You pick one focus, like exercise plans, stress relief techniques, sleep improvement, or mindfulness practices, then filter it through simple criteria: realistic for your week, meaningful to you, and measurable in a small way.

This matters because the right goal feels doable on your busiest days, which makes follow-through more likely. A clear, measurable target also turns progress into proof, so self-care feels supportive instead of another vague demand.

For example, if exercise feels overwhelming, remember that movement can take many forms. You might choose two 10-minute walks after appointments and track them as daily or weekly actions, rather than chasing a perfect workout plan.

With your focus chosen, it becomes easier to map a schedule that holds up in real weeks.

Plan → Schedule → Do → Review → Adapt

To make this sustainable, try a simple weekly rhythm.

This workflow turns a personalized goal into a structured wellness schedule you can repeat without overthinking. It also keeps self-care practical by treating it as deliberate choices that support your physical, mental, and emotional health, not an all-or-nothing makeover.

Stage	Action	Goal
Clarify	Write one focus and your “minimum doable” version.	A plan that still works on busy days.
Schedule	Block 2 to 4 small sessions; tie them to existing routines.	Self-care has a reliable time and trigger.
Prepare	Set up cues: clothes, water, reminders, a simple checklist.	Less friction when it is time to start.
Practice	Do the session; stop at the minimum if needed.	Consistency beats intensity; you keep the streak.
Review	Note what helped, what got in the way, and mood/energy.	Clear feedback you can use next week.
Adjust	Keep what works; reduce, swap, or reschedule what doesn’t.	A routine that evolves with real life.

Each stage supports the next: clarity guides scheduling, scheduling makes practice more automatic, and review turns experience into improvement. Over time, adjusting is how your habits stay stable through changing weeks.

Start small, repeat often, and let the rhythm do the heavy lifting.

No A.I. was used in crafting this article.

Uncommon Paths to Mental Wellness: Fresh Approaches That Just Might Work

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By Guest Blogger Bella Reilly

Your mind’s a crowded room—too many voices, too many lists, and not enough air. You’ve tried the usual: meditation, therapy, the old “breathe in, breathe out” routine. All good, sure, but sometimes what you need is something stranger, softer, less clinical. Mental health doesn’t always have to live in the sterile lanes of prescriptions and generic advice. It’s about shifting energy in ways that feel alive, not prescriptive. Let’s get into seven unexpected, effective ways to shake up your mental landscape—and maybe even have a little fun with it.

Soak in the forest
There’s a reason the Japanese have a word for it: Shinrin-yoku. The literal translation—forest bathing—sounds gentle, but the effects go deep. Trees talk chemically. They release phytoncides that help reduce blood pressure, anxiety, even cortisol spikes. A slow walk in the woods becomes therapy when done with intention, no phone, no earbuds. According to research on forest bathing benefits, this immersive nature experience correlates with lower stress hormone levels and improved mood. You don’t need a cabin—just pick a patch of green and surrender to the quiet.

Move like no one’s watching
This isn’t about choreography. It’s about shaking off the static in your bones with a playlist that knows what your head needs before you do. Dancing taps into primitive systems, bypassing thought to let movement speak for emotion. You sweat. You breathe. You forget what was bothering you. There’s real science behind the mental benefits of dance, from endorphin surges to enhanced cognitive flexibility. Whether it’s two minutes in your kitchen or an hour in a studio, your brain thanks you.

Try these four safe alternatives
You’ve got options that live outside the pharmacy and inside your pantry, your backyard, your vape cart. These alternatives won’t solve every problem, but they might soften the edges. Let’s run through four you may not have tried:

Chamomile tea: not just sleepytime fluff; it may affect GABA receptors in your brain, gently easing anxiety.
Magnesium glycinate: helps your muscles relax and may lower anxiety by regulating the HPA axis.
Ashwagandha: an adaptogen that’s been shown to assist in lowering cortisol and boosting calm in those with chronic stress; ashwagandha stress relief is backed by growing research.
THCa diamonds concentrate: non-psychoactive and potentially anti-inflammatory, THCa stress benefits are starting to gain attention for offering calming effects without a high.

Journal in chaos, not structure
Everyone says journal, but no one talks about how rigid those prompts feel. Forget the gratitude lists for a second. Try writing without punctuation, without order, without rereading. Let it all out—misspellings, ramblings, ugly thoughts, weird loops. You aren’t crafting a memoir, you’re unloading static. Studies suggest journaling for mental health can clear intrusive thoughts, regulate emotion, and create patterns of insight—but only when it’s honest and messy enough to matter.

Hack your bedtime like a ritual
The modern adult glorifies exhaustion. You’re not weak, you’re just tired in eight directions. But a sleep ritual—a real one, not scrolling TikTok under the sheets—can change your mental baseline. Tea, dim lights, a podcast that bores you in just the right way. Same time every night, even on weekends. The trick is consistency, and bedtime routine tips from sleep experts suggest this predictability signals your brain to wind down more efficiently. You’re building trust with your own circadian rhythm.

Play with the cold
Cold showers aren’t punishment—they’re recalibration. That jolt you feel is your nervous system getting a clean slap across the face, and weirdly, it helps. Ice baths, cryotherapy, or a minute under freezing water can increase norepinephrine, the brain’s natural mood booster. It’s brutal at first, but kind in the long run. Athletes use it for recovery, but for the anxious mind, it creates a strange sort of peace. Curious about cold exposure benefits? It’s more than grit—it’s a tool for emotional reset.

Tune into the invisible
Sometimes healing isn’t loud. It’s quiet palms hovering over tense shoulders, or a breath held for just one second longer than usual. Reiki isn’t about pressure or belief—it’s about permission. Your nervous system responds to intention whether you buy into the whole energy-field thing or not. Meditation works the same way; when done consistently, it changes how your brain handles stress, and Reiki and meditation practices have been linked to lower anxiety and improved emotional clarity. You don’t have to understand it fully to benefit—you just have to show up and sit still.

You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t even have to be okay all the time. What you do need is movement, novelty, a few weird habits that make the day feel a little less heavy. Mental health isn’t one path. It’s a crowded, messy trail of strange experiments and little joys. Start with one of these—walk a forest, take a cold shower, scribble until your hand hurts—and see where it takes you. The next best version of you might just be on the other side of something unusual.

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Bella Reilly knows the wellness struggle. For years she bounced from fad diet to trendy wellness treatment, back and forth and back and forth, leaving both her and her bank account feeling depleted. Eventually, she had to say, enough is enough. She began carefully researching wellness trends to find the best, most affordable options for her. At Well Now Shop, she shares some of the tips and advice she has gathered from her ongoing wellness research

No A.I. was used in crafting this article.

My Month with Jane

Please note: This has nothing to do with Grace and Frankie or Jane’s latest cancer diagnosis and subsequent remission; this conversation organically, and very much at random, occurred one day while my mom was sitting on my couch. From there, I realized Jane was very much alive, well, and still in the news. It was also a great reminder that I need to watch Grace and Frankie.

Ok–so it’s currently the middle of January and I’ve had this very random, very hilarious idea. It has just occurred to me that Jane Fonda and her workouts were almost definitely a baby-sitter for me as a child. After my mom and I started talking about the workout videos, she pulled one of our favorites up on YouTube.

Jane Fonda’s New Workout from 1985 is still around for rollicking fun via Amazon, or you can watch it with interruptions on YouTube.

And you guessed it. I have decided to spend a month with Jane.

These tidbits of advice, the intonations, oh my goodness, I’m laughing so hard here. The vibrant colors! The teased hair! The half shirts, tight shorts, leg warmers! My mom and I remember this stuff VERBATIM. We are honestly quoting from the video!

The Plan: weekly workouts with Jane starting at the end of January/early February. A write-up about each half hour spent with her.

I’m terribly excited.

Week One

Not only did I have the muscle memory for the leaning, swaying and kicking, but the music was pumping through my head like it never left. My cats looked at me like I was insane.

I pretty much kept up with the short workout, which is amazing considering I’m fairly out of shape and 9,000 years old now. As a lanky 7 – 12 year old kid, I had struggled tagging along with these athletic geniuses. I definitely felt more secure and stable in my body as I hoe-downed, Rover’s Revenged and curled my tail up like a scorpion… At least something positive has come with 30+ additional years!

But I’m not going to lie–afterwards, I felt shaky as hell!

Week Two

Um, yeah. So while I only did that one workout last week with our dear Jane, it STAYED with me for about half a week. No kidding. My calves, my obliques, my arms even. My God, had she let me rest my arms at all? It was crazy. I couldn’t believe how sore I was.

This time when I sang along with Leslie Lilien (try googling her; she’s done an excellent job at hiding) and I “did it”, I was reminded of the exercises I didn’t like as a child; they’re still hard for me to do now. While, as a massage therapist, I can appreciate the use of tackling inner thigh strength as part of a whole-leg regimen, regular me keeps questioning in my head about Jane’s intentions.

I don’t need that muscle strengthened, that inner leg lift is an impossible task! Why the hell are we doing it? On both sides?! Jane, Jane, Jane. Shaking my damn head.

Overall, though, this exercise routine really is affecting my WHOLE body! I’m running in circles, squatting; I’m crunching and scrunching, popping every vertebrae of my C-spine for a warm-up.

But–what’s with that the calf stretch at the beginning of the session? My massage therapist brain is cringing. This body is far too cold to try and lengthen my achilles tendon and double-headed gastroc at this point in the workout. I’m afraid my legs are going to snap and that will be the end of me and Jane.

Body, warm up fast!

If I didn’t know the routine from years of practice as a chid, I wouldn’t be cued in enough about what to do. As someone who has a hard time following routines, even WITH instructions, this would generally be extremely frustrating.

However. This warm-up, aerobics and leg lifting is a part of my DNA so I could do it with my eyes shut. Luckily, terrycloth headbands are not a part of my DNA, but I’m not gonna lie–I do have a pair of black leg warmers at the ready.

Week Three

Ok — I totally missed this week. It was my birthday week and chaotic. Sorry, Jane.

Week Four

Can I tell you how much I’ve fallen in love with this workout? I’m not in pain afterwards at all like I first was, and man, I still dislike some of the things she’s doing with my inner thighs and lack of stamina is a real_thing, but like I said before: This workout is moving and strengthening so many different parts of my body that I feel SEEN and HEARD as an individual.

Good Lord, Jane. Thank you for seeing and hearing me.

Final Thoughts

There are soooo many workout videos available via streaming these days, it’s nice to know you can go back home and still get a full body workout. I have high hopes I will fit in some more of her workouts here in the near future. Maybe I can even conquer one of her hour long sessions?

Upon writing this post, I saw that other people had been doing Jane’s videos over the past few years or so and writing about it. It brings me endless joy to know that I’m not the only one out there who is, even after all this time, bringing Jane into my living room.

A Novel for Bodyworkers/Yogis/Magic Lovers

A little bit of self-promotion here.

I wrote a book about a bodyworker. Scenes take place in yoga studios, dojos and meditation rooms. There are crystals, runes, reiki, and elixirs.

While the story itself was therapeutic to write, the fun came in describing the world we holistic health people know and love. I call BS when BS needs to be called, I call confusion when Destiny vs Free Will is on the mind of our characters, and sneak in some recipes at the back of the book.